How many of you keep a journal of love by the side of your bed? Do you take the time to tell your sweetheart that you love them every day? Do you leave little love notes here and there around the house to surprise them and put a smile on their face? My folks did that until the day my father died, and yet I didn’t learn from that important lesson in life. I never left a love note for my husband to find and smile about over the past 31 years…there just didn’t seem to be enough hours in the day. But was that really true?
Life has a way of slipping into a monotonous routine of the usual daily grind….get up, hop in the shower, eat breakfast, work, come home, eat dinner, watch TV and go to bed. The next day it is another repeat of this routine…and the next….and the next….and the next day, until you forgot about all those sweet things that you love about your honey.
We give lots of attention to our businesses if we own one, we give it our all at work to hopefully please our boss and climb up the next rung on the ladder of success. We spend all of our personal time with our children and grandchildren making sure we are giving them all of our love and attention. In fact, we would jump through hoops and buy them the world if we had enough resources. All for the sake of showing how much we love them. But do we go through the same efforts with our spouses? Do they often take a back seat to the other things in life that seem more important?
The bible says to “Love the Lord with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength” – Deuteronomy 6:5, making him your first priority. However, your spouse is immediately next, loving them with all your heart, soul, mind, body and spirit so that your relationship becomes stronger with every moment of the day. Children should come next and yet I often placed both of my son’s needs over the years above my husband’s needs. It seemed right at the time and I often slip back into the pattern of wanting to think nothing of the grandkids desires because they are just so sweet and adorable. How can you not look into the eyes of joyous, mischievous and beautiful little faces and not want to raise them up to the top of the list?
Take the wise and wonderful advice of a dear friend of mine, Lori, who suggested that when couples have issues in their relationships, to push the past behind them and focus on the future. Tell the person who is most important to you in life, something sweet and adorable that you love about them. Something that is unique about them, that you cannot live without, that your life would be empty without, something special every single day. Build your relationship every day and don’t let your work, children and the monotonous routine of our lives get in the way.
We are starting on a new path of growth and love and I want to remember my own advice to all of you. Tell your beloved spouse what you really love about them and tell them every day. My husband is gentle and kind to everyone he comes in contact with. He never says a negative thing about anyone, never gossips, always looks past someone’s faults and focuses on the joy they bring to his life. And he loves me, our son and his wife, my folks and those adorable little grandkids with all his heart and soul. Just like a faithful, loving husband and father always does.